This months additions

Wow! I'm stunned I've just looked at how many people joined Wikivorce this month

2144 new members - thats this month alone???

How sad is this. These figures are more than just statistics, they're lives and children and all surrounding families. Is this what todays world of pressures is being driven too. Heck this is a big boat and we are all in it.

Keep rowing guys, theres more coming on board.

April

its a sad fact that many relationships suffer around the festive period. The pressure to play happy families at this time is immense, and can often bring all the negative issues in a relationship to a head. Sometimes, enough is enough, and the festive period can often compound all the problems in a relationship.

My own marriage ended for good on Boxing Day 2007 - the thought was just to get Xmas day over and done with, then try to resolve/discuss the problems we were having. With hindsight, we shouldnt have waited as we were only delaying the inevitable.

By coming to Wiki, however, people find they are not alone (the biggest factor for me), there is a whole community of support, from those just starting out and being able to share in the rawness of the emotions they are experiencing, to those who are safely through to the other side and give much-needed hope and support, to those who diligently and intelligently answer posts in the forums on a regular basis. Not to mention the wealth of information in the library and guides here.

Wiki is indeed a huge lifeboat, but one that has room for everyone.

January is always a busy time for breakdowns. Apparently the 15th is known as National Divorce Day.

I'm sure the solicitors put stuff in the bottles pre Xmas

Maybe Father Christmas should put a gift wrapped 'Do it Yourself' divorce package under every tree???

Perhaps it would be better if we gave up this "happy ever after" myth and said that relationships are doing fantastically well if they last 10 years. So if you end your marriage, instead of feeling a failure, you can have a ceremony to celebrate your sticking power and the good times, and then get out of it more easily.

There's too much expectation that we should all be happy, fulfilled etc all the time, when the reality is that we are all rushing around to save time (which we never have enough of) and feeling guilty because we aren't spending enough time on our relationship/children/job/friends.

Perhaps we should all slow down and stop watching tv programmes/reading magazines that show us a fantasy world of a wonderful life that is beyond mere mortals.

But, but I LIKE fantasy!

There is a school of thought that the media is not helping with all the perfect love books and perfect romance films. Gives people the wrong idea about real life.

Alternatively, reading romantic fiction and seeing love story films may help women put up with *****y marriages.