I''m not sure whether this is the right place to put this, but here goes anyway and the story so far....
She tells me she''s not happy, wants to separate.
I say don''t be ridiculous, let''s talk about it.
Over the next 3 months I try to talk, she clams up.
I tell her I''ve arranged to see a counsellor, will she come with me?
No she won''t, and by the way she''s been to see a solicitor because I''m not taking her seriously and she wants a divorce.
Oh, then we find out about her affair with the guy who came round to do the kitchen floor, nice touch, so that must have been going on for about 6 months then.
Yes, she says, but its irrelevant, here''s a letter from my solicitor get ready for a divorce.
I say "hold on, lets not throw it all away, what about the kids", and life carries on.
She continues her affair for another 2 months while still living in the FMH
, another nice touch, wants me to move out, I say no way, if you are so unhappy you go.
He dumps her because its all getting a bit heavy, and she actualy tells me everything.
The next 2 months were tense, we went to relate together, me desparate to hold on, she not really bothered and looking for an exit.
She moves out, only gone 2 weeks and "I''m never coming back" and by the way OM is around now, amazing, who would have thought it?
So here we are now, been messing about for nearly 18 months, now battling via solicitors, no chance of a reconciliation, she never wanted it, maybe I was too desparate for it, and now we can''t even speak to each other.
We share the children 50/50, I''m in the FMH but under presure to sell it, and I hate everything about this whole situation. I find the time when I don''t have the children very difficult indeed.
But the Petition will go out this week, I have asked her if we can talk via a mutual friend to sort out the day to day stuff where we have some problems, seems much more sensible than a sols letter. Last month cost me £500 in fees and achieved nothing.
But the conclusion: we will never be back toegther now, too much has happened. We will get divorced, the house will be sold, and the kids will be ok. But the dark clouds seem very dark when they come over, but I know it will only last a few days before the kids come back and we will always have a real laugh. Keep smiling wiki''s - little steps, sometimes they are backwards but eventually the sun will shine and you will smile again......