You are in the right place for helpful advice. A God-send to me, when I stumbled upon it.
You are however in need of urgent help: divorce itself can be quick, the AR is another process that can run along side, or after Nisi amd orders can be varied after Absolute.....
You don''t say much to get an idea of your circumstances, as in financial, as in your housing, rented/mortgaged? Joint marital income? Whatever the case, don''t lie to hospital anymore if he does it again. Evidence, maybe needed for later. I know you are scared of him, bless you. Mine used to do it when I was walking on tip toes emotionally, not to set him off.
Right now, you need to get out. Don''t fall for any declarations of love, etc.... and you still love him, and making excuses for him. Sorry to be so bold, but am expert on Domestic Violence at my age! Pne thing I do have confidence posting about!
They are bullies - they break you down emotionally, as well as (usually later on) resorting to physical voilence.
I too was hospitalised by stbx (that means soon to be ex - yes, I wondered what that meant too - you''ll see it often referred to on this site.)
Now, VeryLost. you have your son to look after, can I suggest you google women''s aids groups? Are you on a shared computer ith him? Mine actually hacked into my PC.... I have to be so careful not to give too much info in case he is on here, seeing all I do, but I felt heartfelt drawn to come out of hiding and post.
Now, do you have family you could go to?
If so, that''s am optiom. I lied to my parents too about hpw I got my injuries over the years too, to protect them.
But it gets worse - believe me - once they start they DO get worse.
Your best bet is to leave with your baby son. Remove yourself frrom the psychological damage, and the imminent constant fear of another assualt ( that is what it is, if you are strong enough to go to police)
As Felix said, hello, Felix, btw.
You need to remove yourself from what is danger to your mental health and physical health. This does mean physically going, packing your and baby''s stuff up.
If you have -really - no family, friends to go to, you need to fight back and get what is called a non -molestation order. if it is that bad.
Not being ageist but you sound young: sorry in advance if I am mistaken but you and your son can start again.
I cant being the age I am.
I see your pain in your long email, and I so identify. If on shared PC, do not email from that, they are controlling, these sort of men. Better still, I don''t know where you are, but flick through Yellow Pages re Womem''s Refuges - don''t use your own phone,mobile, anything he will check '' to keep you in place''....
Use a public phone box and call numbers you can find by googling. This site is for people already in midst of divorce, not that you are not welcome, but you need urgent advice that could be best sought by advice lines/sites for abused women. And as I say, don''t know where you are in the country, but you need to remove youself and your baby - it will only get worse, sorry to say but oh so true. So chck out yellow pages.... and google as much as you can when allowed out, hmm, take this from me, I really do empathise.
Your first step is gettng your self and you baby out of there. Look into non molestation order, if you are frightned of him.
I cant say anymore. As you can see by the mispellings, I never do, I fear that he hacks in to my PC. even npw.
I don''t want to enter into further correspondence with you, lost, since you need to work out for yourself, basically. I jave only given you advice re my own experience andhope it helps.
I hav e yto go nowm since being corutped corrupted.... I habe only exspressed my opinion........ I think he hacks into here. hence the spelong mostakes! Got tp go. nut as mucj p;der wonan , just get outside help in secrest. sev secreat. secret. My PC as I speak is beubg corruted.
got to go, ;pst lost. get outside helo in secret.