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12 Sep 12 #355524 by TEACHER2012
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hi all,

i am new to this forum and i am not even sure i have posted in the right bit. i am going through a divorce and my husband is being his usual bully self. he just texts to say he wants the kids on any given day and expects me to say yes. he gets angry and says i am keeping him apart from his kids if i say no but when the kids are in their routine they are settled and they seem to lose it completely and its very hard to get them back on track. i have two boys with him aged 5 and 2 and a half. the five year old has since started saying horrible things to me when he doesnt get his way. i tried to explain this to my ex husband but he doesnt listen. he just tells me that he will go get the kids from school and there is nothing i can do to stop him. he says that from next week he is having the kids for three days a week and i can take him to court if i want to change it. he has no respect for anythign least of all me. i am at my wits end. what do i do? can he really do that??

pleaase help if anyone can??


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12 Sep 12 #355541 by Fiona
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Both parents have equal Parental Responsibility and rights carry out those responsibility. That means parents need to agree important issues such as where children live or apply to court for a judicial decision.

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13 Sep 12 #355557 by Canuck425
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You need to get on a set schedule and then stick to it. It is good for the kids, your ex and you if everyone knows where the kids are supposed to be and who sees them at certain times. The kids like to know when they are going to see each parent and having a set schedule really helps with this.

Once you have a schedule that everyone agrees to then stick to it. If you or he needs to modify then document the modification and set the new schedule.

This stuff really matters. If you set the schedule for six months at a time, for example, then everyone can plan and know who is supposed to be where.

Three days a week might be reasonable or not but who knows? I have my kids 6/14 days which is the same as 3/7 and I find that tough. I would love to have them more but it works for now.

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