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01 Oct 12 #358806 by scrapped
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Hi everyone,
This is my first time visiting this site. At this moment in time I am just totally confused! I have been married for 12 years about 10 of those happy. Things have been very strained for the last two years as I have had to work away for that time, we have both been very lonely and struggled to keep things alive between us, but a month ago I found out that my wife had been having an affair. This has crushed me, I''ve given up my job to try and sort things although I am unsure what to do. I have seen a solicitor about a divorce but we are trying relate as well. On the one hand I feel that I am being untrue to myself for what she has done if I stay but on the other hand a part of me want''s to stick around to try and sort things out. Add three beautiful kids to the mix and confusion reigns!
I would value any input and advice that anyone could give me as to which way to turn.

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If you think there is anything worth saving then go for the counselling.

It''s a very hard time when you first find out an affair.

Is giving up your job the right move?

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giving up my job was the only thing I could do at the time, otherwise I would''ve been sent 350 miles away for 3 months with probably about 3 visits home in that time. There''s no way we can sort anything over a telephone either way and I probably would''ve gone completely mad if I was away!

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