more questions than answers

Hi everyone,
This is my first time visiting this site. At this moment in time I am just totally confused! I have been married for 12 years about 10 of those happy. Things have been very strained for the last two years as I have had to work away for that time, we have both been very lonely and struggled to keep things alive between us, but a month ago I found out that my wife had been having an affair. This has crushed me, I''ve given up my job to try and sort things although I am unsure what to do. I have seen a solicitor about a divorce but we are trying relate as well. On the one hand I feel that I am being untrue to myself for what she has done if I stay but on the other hand a part of me want''s to stick around to try and sort things out. Add three beautiful kids to the mix and confusion reigns!
I would value any input and advice that anyone could give me as to which way to turn.
Thanks

Hi,

If you think there is anything worth saving then go for the counselling.

It''s a very hard time when you first find out an affair.

Is giving up your job the right move?

giving up my job was the only thing I could do at the time, otherwise I would''ve been sent 350 miles away for 3 months with probably about 3 visits home in that time. There''s no way we can sort anything over a telephone either way and I probably would''ve gone completely mad if I was away!