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Stbx verbally abusing myself and children

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22 Oct 13 #411069 by stephenpin
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that''s all relevant I believe you would get an order and you need to protect yourself and the children from him

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22 Oct 13 #411071 by Confusedandscared
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Oh I hope so, the police weren''t much help, until he''s actually got physical again they are powerless to do anything. I''m so scared he will be back tonight and start again, I know my children are too....
Do I need to go through a solicitor to do this?

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22 Oct 13 #411072 by stephenpin
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You could do it yourself you need to fill in the application and file a sworn statement(FEE PAYABLE) you can also apply initially without notice if it''s urgent.

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23 Oct 13 #411073 by Mitchum
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Hello confused and scared, sorry to read about your situation.

Seek help and support to deal with this. Find a safe place. If your husband threatens or intimidates you when he comes home, seek refuge at a local women''s shelter or with a trusted friend or family member. Your safety is the first priority.

Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline on 0800 2000 247. They have a 24 hour helpline. If you are in immediate danger don’t hesitate to dial 999.

Lean on your family, friends and whoever can support you through this critical time. We can certainly support you from afar and will be thinking of you and the children.

Hugs!

Mitchum xx

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23 Oct 13 #411095 by CakesandFlowers
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Sorry to hear about your situation.

Yours and your children''s safety come first.

Don''t forget if you do go down the occupation/non mol route that he will have a chance in court to defend himself. It''s not just a case of you get an order and he has to abide by it.

The non mol can be done ex parte, but again a date will be set and he will have a chance to defend himself.

The whole process can take months and isn''t always a ''quick fix'' that people believe it is and aren''t always granted.

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23 Oct 13 #411098 by stephenpin
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The courts are quite hot on domestic violence and are sympathetic were children are involved.I have done probably 100 ++ over the years.

Get the advice and go ahead if that''s the advice.

Most respondent''s don''t attend court altho there''s no guarantee.

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23 Oct 13 #411100 by CakesandFlowers
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stephenpin wrote:

The courts are quite hot on domestic violence and are sympathetic were children are involved.I have done probably 100 ++ over the years.

Get the advice and go ahead if that''s the advice.

Most respondent''s don''t attend court altho there''s no guarantee.


That may be the case, but the OP needs to be aware that it isn''t automatic and her stbx will have a right to reply. I am not a solicitor, but I know of a few cases recently where they haven''t been granted and there were children involved.

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