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27 Dec 13 #417097 by dulciedo
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I wouldn''t worry, if you have done nothing wrong ,easy to say I know ,and like I said I contested mine and it got know where ,stay calm and focused looks like your in for a rough ride.

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27 Dec 13 #417100 by elliotdudley
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I know that in the long run it won''t be a issue and I''ll get back in... it''s just the first two weeks that I''m back that is annoying, specially as I''ve bent over backwards to come up with solutions to meet her half way..thank you very much for your help again.

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27 Dec 13 #417103 by NoWhereToTurnl
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Hi,

Rather than leave it until the last minute, is there any way you can have a backup plan to stay with friends and family for a few days, obviously not telling her this.

Travel back will be stressful enough so if you have contingency plans, it might ease it just a little.

Good luck and best wishes,

NWTT.

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27 Dec 13 #417104 by elliotdudley
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Hi ya. Yep, I''ve already got a few plans in place and people back home have been very kind. It''s just annoying that somebody can be so petty and mean. Being away is hard enough.all you want too do when you return is chill out and relax for a few weeks..oh well, if it comes to it, then it won''t kill me to live elsewhere for a short while.:-)

Thank you for your best wishes

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27 Dec 13 #417105 by dukey
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If the application is made it''s not a judge saying I believe it, the judge often won''t really know unless there is a police report, all the judge knows is one person is saying I fear my spouse, the judge will often decide as of now they both can''t live together and allows the respondent to have their say down the road, often in just a few weeks, I''ve even seen the non molest granted but not the occupation, in fact a few in the last year or so.

So, what you could end up is a cross undertaking for you both not to bother each other.

No one likes these orders, not lawyers not judges, but they are needed, though it''s seems widely accepted these orders are abused, often it''s one spouse that wants rid of the other.

In the short term it would be wise to do as NWTT suggests.

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27 Dec 13 #417110 by elliotdudley
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Many thanks dukey..I think you have nailed it on the head.that is exactly what it''s about..she wants the house and will resort to any means necessary.. to me the whole thing is absurd as we are both very laid back people..together five years and I can count on one hand the account of times we have even argued.. I''ve now got a concrete plan in place of where to stay if the worst comes to comes although I still holdout hope that it won''t come to that..thank you for shedding a little more light on the subject for me..I''m guessing that if she can afford it(I''ve heard it will cost nearly 2000) then she will attempt to get the order but then two weeks down the line I''ll disprove the whole thing... seems a waste of time to avoid the inevitable but if that''s what she wants to do then she knows best.:-)

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27 Dec 13 #417112 by elliotdudley
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Can a judge hasn''t a non most order with the caviat being that the accused not be allowed in the property or can that only be granted via an occupation order?

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