Are you/will you/have you changed your name back?

I changed my name after receiving the Absolute, however I found out that I could have changed it before once separated.

Yes I have children and I am not denying their parentage - it is not their choice, it''s mine.

As for the X, well, he still communicates to his ex wife, thinking she still exists. But that maybe because he''s like that and still thinks he owns me.

Hell No. I am who I was born and I am very comfortable with that. I will never change my name again, not for nothing or no-one. Men don''t have to, why should a woman?

As for the stigma, this is the 21st century, and the minority are those who have parents with different surnames. As long as the children are loved and cared for and have their own identity (their name from their birth certificate), why should there be a problem?

Any woman looking to change their surname on their passport can do so, see the application form. You can also state that you were "formerly known as Mrs X" and you can state the name you want to use. You do not have to wait like I did for the Absolute.

Take back the power and control in your life and remember who you really are.

i will be changing my name back as soon as i''m devorced. I want nothing from that man, my children''s opinion will be of no consequence and my son who is 15 has already refered to me using my Maiden Name recently, i disagree that there is a stigma. i would rather have a different name a spring in my step and a smile on my face and be in my new life than, be unhappy with my ex and hanging on to a miserable situation for the sake of a name. no thanks.

I kept my married name for 8 years till my son was old enough to understand and identify with the purpose of a Surname. He is comfortable with me reverting to my maiden name (after all he doesn''t call me Mrs Xxxxxx) he calls me mum.. and he has no intention of changing his Surname.