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Are you/will you/have you changed your name back?

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07 Jun 12 #335462 by jar of hearts
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I would dearly love to change my name, but my four daughters obviously have the same name and I don''t want to have a different name to them. They would all like to change their name as well, but the younger two are only 13 and 16 and so would need their fathers permission, which of course they won''t get. Other than that we would need to apply to the court and I for one have seen the inside of a courtroom too many times already. We thought we might have a name change celebration on my youngest daughters 18th and do them all together.

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07 Jun 12 #335490 by julie321
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I am thinking of changing my name back to my Maiden Name, my kids a re older so don''t really mind and if my daughter marries she will probably change her name. I hve no contact with stbx family anymore and don''t really wan the same name as them. I am waiting until my passport runs out in 2014 though, lol

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07 Jun 12 #335582 by SilverFir
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I have recently changed my name, but for similar reasons as to why most of you won''t do so - so that I have the same name as my son.

I''m over three years since separation, divorce proceedings are proving to be long and complicated. Since separation I am in a new relationship and I have a son with my new partner. We gave our son his surname on the BC, stupidly thinking that by the time we were due to make school applications, the divorce would be finalised and we could be married .... hahahahaha :lol:

So, in annoyance at STBX continuing to drag things out, I changed my name by deedpoll last month to match my new partner and our son.

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07 Jun 12 #335588 by sexysadie
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I didn''t change my name when I got married, so have had the same name throughout. However, my children had their dad''s name so for years we had different names. My elder one changed his officially to mine by Deed Poll when he was sixteen (this is when they can do it legally of their own accord). He''d been using my name for a couple of years before that at school at his own request. My younger one still uses his father''s name and will stick with it.

I also have stepdaughters. Their mother didn''t marry my ex and always had the same surname, but she had two sets of children by different fathers, all of whom had their father''s surnames. Since then, though, one of my stepdaughters has also taken her mother''s name. So she is now in the same position as I am, with the same name as one child and a different name from the other(s).

It doesn''t ever seem to have caused any real problems to either of us.

best wishes,

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07 Jun 12 #335600 by flowerofscotland
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Hi jslgb,

This is a question that I have toyed with, but in the end I have decided to stick with my married name, that is when my divorce is eventually granted!

The main reason is it is much easier to take the children on holiday if we are travelling in the same name and also, like someone else said, my children are who they are by birth right, and I did nothing wrong. I will and always be the first Mrs ?

Take care for now FoS x

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07 Jun 12 #335613 by lozzsa21
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My Absolute was granted 16th May. People that knew started calling me all sorts of different things, Ms being one of them!

I''m staying with my married name. Don''t particularly like it, but I want the same name as the kids. They are only 5 and 6 and it feels important to me. I''m also not becoming Ms - can''t stand it!!

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08 Jun 12 #335740 by Gloriasurvive
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I will be keeping my married name for time being , have not even started divorce proccedings. I want to have the same name as my children.
Can they change their name to my surname if they wanted? Didn''t know if they could?

I also have been teaching for many years and all the children, even ones grown up now shout "Hello Mrs.....!" So would confuse me to change!

But I am open to offers of a caring, kind, sensitive male who wants to change that! :silly::laugh::lol:

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