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18 Jan 08 #11072 by mike62
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You don't improve do you?

What would Snow White say? :ohmy:

Mike :laugh:

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18 Jan 08 #11073 by Vail
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SK Callum,

If you don't have any girlfriends it doesn't mean you are a fairy, besides which if by fairy you mean an homosexual then so what? I am heterosexual (but don't tell ChrisM as we're still at the flirting stage) but to be quite honest I'd rather sleep with another bloke than get intimate with my x.

It's not because she is a woman, it's because ... well ... uurrrgh! So it's the person who appeals to me and not the gender. Likewise, I feel that if one really gets on with someone, likes them, feels comfortable with them and cares for them, that does not necessarily mean it has to lead to carnal conduct.

I don't know how you ladies feel, but stress affects us blokes quite a lot in a department where we feel we ought to 'perform'. So ladies, if you are lucky enough to find a dreamboat going through a divorce, please be understanding, as the financial analysts say, "Performance may go up as well as down".

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18 Jan 08 #11077 by rosiegirl
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Female performance too Vail. :laugh:

Ready to date again? I think so, ready to find out anyway. Harder said than done though - not one for going to pubs etc on my own and with all my friends being happy couples its a bit daunting getting out there again. So, i sit here waiting for a knight in shining armour to come knocking! Well, just someone with a nice smile anyway :)

On a serious note though, whilst i know i'm ready to date again, i've also realised that I have lost my ability to trust aswell, something I find very sad and hopefully won't last too long.

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18 Jan 08 #11080 by Shelia
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That is what I have found. Just getting some sort of social life together, is hard. Like you I would never dream of going into a pub on my own. Generally getting out there and mixing I feel would be a step in the right direction.

As for dating, I like the idea in theory in practice I am not sure, and not even sure I can be bothered yet....!

I do get lonely at times, then I remind myself how peaceful my life is. My stbx made my life hell even when he got all his own way.

Where I am at is that I am not ruling in or ruling out having another relationship. Should anyone ever be interested in me.

On a positive note, I have got a job that suits me, and there is never a dull moment. I also feel I am building a better relationship with my grown up children now I am not with their father.

Thinking of changing my hair colour, so I feel like a new me:)

Love to you all


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19 Jan 08 #11122 by gone1
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Shelia wrote:

Thinking of changing my hair colour, so I feel like a new me:)

Love to you all


I would go for it Shelia. Look the new you. Will make you feel a whole lot better. Chris

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19 Jan 08 #11127 by TMax
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:)if I wanted to pretend i was lieing next to my X id just soak a pilllow in lambrusco and cheap vodca :)stuff a hot water bottle in it, then beat myself up just to make it feel real again hehehe.

To late about ChrisM mate I think hes found out heheheh

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05 Mar 08 #15892 by NOtia
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Hi all,
Elle I'm glad to see here somebody in similar situation as me! I don't miss my ex at all.I'm just happy he is out of my life. I tried to date few guys but it didn't work out. My therapist sugested that i attract/choose "wrong" guys and she is probably right. Finally, after 13 years in relationships...I enjoy being single! I thought that it is not possible in my case and I'm so happy it is...I love my independence! I still get lonely and sad at times. But I know it will pass. My life is so much better now when I'm single then when I was in that messed up marridge!!!

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