Really,really, ready to Date!

I'm not ready to date yet and not even thinking about it but when I am I will look at what the person on the inside is like a lot closer and not worry at all about the outside.
I have as I'm sure a few of you have, have had enough of partners telling me one thing when they don't mean it or do the oppersite.
As for Ann Summers they are doing us blokes out of a job!!

Onelife,

One thing that is made apparent by a divorce is that life is full of surprises and no-one should ever sit back and think that they have mapped their life out in front of them.

The Anne Summers toys may be sold as being just like men (ie they can't multi-task!) but then they can't change a car tyre or put up a bookshelf.

I would say that commitment is not what you could do with right now. A bit of flirting and a lot of fun is what is needed and unfortunately because this is what we divorcees do, we tend to find that our associates who are husbands and wives view us, the divorced male and female respectively, as predatory, slavering creatures out to ravish their other half!

What broken1 says is very true; the outside is not important. What is important in someone is what lies within.

Yes it was a preditory divorcee that wreaked my marrage but I would NEVER put another person through that. Anyone who starts a relationship on such shakey ground has big issues.

Hi Megan - it was a predatory divorcee that wrecked mine too.

Thing is though, I dont think she targeted my husband because she was a divorcee. I dont think a persons marital status is what makes them predatory, I think its their moral status. Some people have no regard for anything or anyone and just persue their own pleasure selfishly, and have no respect or regard for anyone who has worked hard at a marriage....and if your marriage is vulnerable when they strike, thats when you end up on here.

I would never put anyone through it either. Betrayal is the worst emotion isnt it?

I agree with you too - shaky ground indeed.

Vail - Ann Summers stops women giving a toss about unerected shelves or flat tyres!!!!!!

I have seen the woman who wrecked my new partners life and I also know the other four people whose life she has ruined one after the other, I get the feeling its a revenge thing due to her X going off with another woman. IM sure there will be a man out there who is doing the exact same.

Onelife,

I am sorry to hear about the feral female attack, however 'it takes two to tango' as the saying goes and your x is as much to blame.

You say, "Vail - Ann Summers stops women giving a toss about unerected shelves or flat tyres"

Well, for men who are too flat tired to compete in the rabbit race they have to give a toss or shelve an erection!

As for dating, I did go to a dating site and was talking in chat long before I plucked up the courage to ask to meet, I feel that this time of talking sorted out our ups, downs and emotions, but god I was ready to date I had had enough of living alone and could see myself actualy becomeing a doddering old fart before my time, an unmarried person who may be thought of as a fairy with having no female partner heheheh.