Armed Forces Pension

My soon to be ex partner has told the court and the solicitors that he cannot get the RAF to provide a pension statement and evaluation. A friend says he will have to do so and her ex husband has done so- already spent 8 and a half thousand on the divorce I dont have that sort of money, widh i had found this site before but he abandoned me and said there was no one else, and has taken me almost two years to get to this point now I know why he left me in July and was with the woman a short while later.

I have lots of issues still outstanding one is the pension two the fact he is trying to be paid off by me, when the only equity in the property is my fathers from my inheritance of 147k and he wants half of it. we have lost our 80k with the house Market Drop.

I will also need to sell my home as I will be 40 to 50 k short for the outstanding mortgage

Third I went for Unreasonable behaviour, everyone said it would be a woman and they were right the disclosure shows he left me in July and was with a woman a short time later . he has always denied this. Should I now take it as adultery, would it make any difference, he was still coming back to put me through mental cruelty during this period for three months?

Please dont get me wrong I am really enjoying being single and away from what I never realised was an oppressive selfish control freak. But I have so many questions to ask?



Am I intitled to half of his endowment it was with his previous wife name but we have been together for sixteen years? His solicitor is saying not
Help:blink:

Liz

Hello

How long were you married including cohabitation?

Do you have any children from the marriage?

ill answer quickly as im off out but saw this, i can only answer the pension bit which is hes talking utter crap, i am ex military and got a pension evaluation form through the post within a week of applying for it. The holders of the pension scheme are:
Xafinity paymaster and you can contact them on 0800 0853600 or mail to
Armed Forces Pension scheme
Mail point 335,Kentigern House
65 Brown street, Glasgow G2 8EX.

he needs an AFPS Divorce 2 this will allow him to get a current valuation which the court can use in pension sharing hearings.

right im off out on the pull lol good luck and any problems give me a buzz ill be happy to help in any way

He wil know the true value of his pension and know that it is worth a fortune. Be carefull though there are many pitfalls and bonuses with sharing a military pension. I was lucky and i kept mine as she wanted capital now, but would have been far better off in her retirement if we had of shared. The main pit fall is that if you pension share and the pension is in payment then his pension is reduced immediately, u cant claim it till 55(think it has just changed) This would then mean if you are claiming csa rates then you would get less per month. Its a trade off, but be warned its not straight forward. Mine ex only looked at her shortterm goals, she will now struggle when she looses ctc/wtc etc she took on house with massive mortgage(100k) she earns 11K parttime and 21K full time. Oh and no SM. i am sooooo lucky

thank you so much, he has refused to disclose, well I would like half the 11 grand he now claims to fund the mortgage, and leave the rest till he is 55 only 8 years, but he abandoned me, just walked out having come out of the RAF in January 08, massive midlife crisis or a pay out to pay against the mortgage

But really appreciate you help dont get me wrong out of a oppressive and controlling relationship. He would not disclose been chasing for nearly two years and of course he had someone in the wings all of three days later, swore blind he did not hence delay in disclosure. I was with him for whole sixteen years in the RAF and he has been so decieptful

So I am afraid I now want it all

I know what you are saying but I dont want to lose my horses and home

Liz

How did the court react Liz - to him saying he couldn't get a pension CETV ?
Did the court ask for proof he'd requested a CETV?
If a pension member can't provide a CETV that's less than 12 months old they have to prove they've requested a current CETV.
Under the Pension Sharing regulations, as the non-member spouse considering pension sharing, you are entitled to check with the pension scheme that they have been asked for/will provide a CETV. You can't ask them to do the CETV for you but under the regs if the member doesn't provide a CETV the court can sidestep the pension member and order the pension scheme to provide a CETV direct to the court.

seventeen and a half he did sixteen years came out in January 08 had a massive mid life crisis and was going for Unreasonable behaviour as he walked out now have proof of adultery.

No children in the marriage I worked throughout the marriage.

Thank you so much for taking an interest in my desperate wish for help very much appreciated.


Liz