i do not know anything about pension entitlement

Hi I need some advice, I was with myex for 5 years married for 4, i had a son when i met him, when we were together we had 2 daughters now 2 and 3. He is a police officer, he is asking me all of the time if i am going to go after his pension, i havent discussed it with my solicitor yet as he hasnt replied to any of my solicitors letters, he isnt due to retire for about 20 yrs so the girls will be adults by then but even so if im entitled to it i plan to have it, I have no idea what percentage i am entitled to he is saying something different every day, yes im entitled no im not i have no idea and his mind games and bullying are starting to get me down, we have sold the marital home but neither if us have had any money yet due to not having filled in a consent form? i dont mean to be naive but i dont kno wanything about it, If im not entitled to his pension i dont care im just following solicitors advice which at the mo is very sparse. Any ideas would be great. Just to be clear I have no pension of my own and having 3 young kids it will be a while before i can go to work and build up a pension. Thanks.

First question is how old are you both and how long has he had the pension?

im 25 hes 33, i think its about 10 yrs

Because of his age and the fact that it is of no use for 20 years it is doubtful.


It still is an asset but it would be better for him to keep the pension and you take slightly more of the other assets.

to be fair i dont want the pension hes not going to let me live it down, my solicitor said that the judge wont let me not have any of it but who knows? i cant have any more money from the house we sold as it would affect my income support and housing benefit and i know that hes not in a position to give me anymore than half as he needs it for a deposit for his new place.

i cant have any more money from the house we sold as it would affect my income support and housing benefit

So take more from the house and claim less housing benefit and income support then. Use your and your husbands joint money to support yourself and your kids rather than mine.

im not against using the money for rent but if he doesnt have half of whats left for his house he wont be able to put down a deposit on his new place and it will be even longer before he can have his kids on a regular basis as he doesnt have anywhere permanent for them to visit him at the moment