Pension sharing after divorce

Hi everyone, really please to have found this site and am hoping for some advice to help me through the daunting process of applying for pension sharing after the divorce.
Our Decree Absolute came through in July after a 5 year separation where ex did not want to get divorced due to the cost of it although we did it the cheapest way possible, DIY. Unfortunately I didn’t know about this forum or indeed about pension sharing until after the divorce or I would have contacted a solicitor.
I had a phone consultation just now with a lovely Wikivorce lady so I know I have to start with speaking to my ex which I am dreading a bit.
We had no property as we had to sell our house some years ago after my husband lost his job and did not have enough equity to buy something else and our kids are grown up now, so now I am wondering why he hesitated to get divorce, can’t help wondering if he knew about pension sharing and just didn’t tell me.
I am pretty sure he will not want to share his naval pension as he has just told me he is getting a job as he cant make ends meet. He likes to travel.
If I tell him that I am going to apply for this and that he needs to contact his pension provider to get an updated CEV and he refuses and I don't have the money to take him to court, then what are my options?

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For pension sharing you would have to have a court order for the trustees to act upon.

If you represent yourself there is loads of help available on here and the only cost will be the application.

If I tell him that I am going to apply for this and that he needs to contact his pension provider to get an updated CEV and he refuses and I don't have the money to take him to court, then what are my options?

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What I feared has come through, my ex is ignoring my request for pension sharing and will not make any attempts to request a CETV from his pension provider. I can’t afford a solicitor as am long term sick and on benefits.

What are my options now ? I can’t force him and I can’t get the CETV fir him. I have received my own. Can I get a court order that says he has to provide the information ? Many thanks for your help.

If you do it DIY as you did with the divorce you can minimise the costs.

Once you start the process he will have to provide the information.

Thank you very much, that’s a great relief, I will do it myself, I presume I get an application form from my local court? Would you know which one I need?

You need to make everything formal so communication should be in writing.

You need to try mediation before you can apply to court. If you are on a low income you may get reduced fees for mediation. In practice this may be only one meeting with the mediator - can be by phone. He would be invited to participate. If he refuses and/or it is clear mediation won't work than the mediator will be able to sign off the paperwork for an application to court.

The form you need for the application is Form A.
The fee is usually £255 but fee remission may apply. Google " divorce courts help with fees".

Once you are in the court process, he is answerable to the courts not you. He will have to provide full financial disclosure by order of the court.

We can provide help and advice here. There are also some low cost services available for litigants in person via this site.

Hadenoughnow

Thank you very much but just to clarify , our divorce has already gone through last year. Does this advice re mediation and Form A still apply ? Many thanks.