I hate nightimes

Taff

(((hugs))) 3 o''clock was the time for me, but sometimes I could see the alarm at hourly intervals and sometimes didn''t bother going to bed at all. Could wake up in a panic or in the delusion that it was all a nightmare, or that x was comming back etc etc ... Don''t know which was worse

I would suggest:
No tea or coffee after 6
Sleeping tablets if needed ... I had a small doe that I would use on a weekend just to get some sleep.
Weekend couch fests, if your children are with your x (no longer case for me) then sleep, get up sleep, baths, watch trashy tv, don''t even bother getting dressed. Didnt do this too often but it was nice that I could & nice when I did.
Eat little and often and treat yourself
Get a bed time routine, no tv in your room, don''t read try meditation tapes etc as these can help.

It does get easier honest, would say it is only 1 out of 7 or less for me now, at first I went weeks without any sleep until I just stayed in bed all weekend and was Ill.

Good luck, don''t try too hard & forgive yourself, if you try to force sleep then it will never come, be kind to you.

JJx

livingintheday and fairylandtime thanks for those replies. I know I keep saying it but this forum is a real lifeline and your kind words are invaluable to me.

Its sites like this one and all of you wonderful people here who have reached out to support me that are helping me through. So thank you, thank you thank you.

I will think about all the wise words everyone has shared with me and hope for a more restful night.

Hi Taff - I just thought I would pop in with my support - I had a list of things that might help - but you are already doing them all! Namely i player by the bed, walking and meditation discs.

It is very very early days for you.

Hang on and keep posting. We are here. You are not alone. And the pain that you think is unbearable will be born somehow.

Hang on and take care of yourself and those teenagers however mad they drive you!

I like the advice re jim jam days too - with your favourite box sets of programmes - just to give your brain a rest - or to let it refile with you are distracted.

You can''t rush this, and it is hell, but it will get more bearable one day.

sc

Hi scaryclairie , your support is much appreciated, thanks. It gives me hope that there can be a better tomorrow.

Am feeling a bit better tonight. Postings here have played a big part in that. Also husband just left for the evening and we had a good chat which was very positive. As mad as it sounds we are trying to support each other through this. Don`t know where we will end up - apart almost definitely as there is so much water under the bridge. But at least we are getting on which is good for the children.

Taff, I love your tag line...it is so true....so here is to splashing joyfully in the puddles of life one day - and cocoa with cream on top, and a comforting hot bath when we get home!

I will drink to that definitely scaryclairie - sounds good, a great recipe for a peaceful nights sleep.

Tag line helps me remember to look for the good in all the bad, there always is some if you look hard enough.

Hi everyone

I slept well last night - or at least I managed from 12 - 6.30. A real acheivement - HOORAY! Diid wake at 3ish but managed to go back to sleep.


Its only one night I know and I am sure there will be plenty more sleepless ones but its a step in the right direction. Its comforting to know I can come here for support and advice when it gets tough and also that I can reach out to others here and help them if I can.