Half Way To Dating

This is on my blog, but would appreciate more comments.
Is there a virtual group I can join?
Could this be a wiki service?

I know I have not “moved on” enough to actually walk into a pub / club and wait to be noticed or do something to be noticed by someone I may like the look of.

I also know I don’t like the “predatory approach” experienced when “not signing up / registering” on free dating sites.

So is there something in the middle?

I’m really not sure of what I want, but I know I want a slow response /approach. I want to know the person and their “baggage” (that sounds awful – I know, but I hope you understand what I mean).
I want to get to know the person more.
I want to make a decision with no blame if I decide “no”.
And if I decide yes, I also want to meet them as part of a group first.

Think I must be talking about a “club” type thing. Is there one anywhere on Wiki?

Carly xx

Hi Carly,

In a similar situation myself.

I think that wikimeets are absolutely ''something in the middle''.
But maybe I''ve not moved on so far as you?

Not expecting to meet a single(haha) person, but a like-minded opportunity to re-learn the whole meeting-up/socialising malarky and build some self-confidence.
You''re among equals, &(maybe I was lucky:blink: ) without that need to have false courage to join in something you''re not really interested about.
If it''s horrid, you can publicly cry.....with no excuse needed:evil:

Good luck with things!

carly, please dont take this as being harse...
If, your not ready and havent moved on, then you are not ready for any kind of dating, it would be hurtfull and wrong to the person your trying out dating with. You seem to want to make the rules and you say you want the opportunity to say no when you want without blame, I am afraid the world doesnt work like that.
Forget it for a while and find yourself. When you do and your having fun each day then date.... trust me

Carly - I think what you''re referring to is just going out and having fun.

Taking up new interests and meeting new people.

Getting to know new people of both sexes making new friends and if the spark appears at some point you think about dating then.

If you''re not ready to date or be involved with anyone, don''t. There are more places than pubs or clubs to meet new people.

You could look into learning a skill or new language, to learn photography or just join a gym. There are classes, courses and meetings bringing all kinds of people together all the time and you will get to know them first.

Good luck

When I first separated from my ex, I tried Ceroc.

It was a bit of laugh really given my total lack of ability to remember routines and moves,but it was a great way of meeting people,and I made friends with a great girl who later became my girlfriend.

Ceroc is good fun & easy going

Shame that all the local classes to me have closed down now.

On the negative side there were an awful lot of soap dodgers there which was not great as it is Ceroc etiquette to never say No to an invite to dance

What is Ceroc?

Carly hope you are doing well with this one, keep smiling as a smiley face is a welcoming open face.

It''s this difficult place i find myself in where you want to be going out (if you can find anyone to go out with) and having some fun, but I often still end up talking about ex or at least that''s what I want to talk about but can''t, as I''d bore the pants off who I''m with and push them away faster than my ex dropped her knickers so they give you that look of; have you not moved on yet?

So its finding yourself first for us?

Boy I wish I knew how to do that. Oh yeah that''s me the man in the mirror but who is that man?