Who Am I Any More?

I asked myself this question over and over again. I didn't know the answer, I was so self-critical, full of self-blame and lacking confidence that to think of myself in positive ways was so difficult.
I began to read things, anything around the whole subject area, trying to find answers and bring peace to my mashed up mind.
I knew that I had to start learning to be kind to myself and in many ways to put into practice the very things I had helped others to do, as part of my job in mental health. It's easy talking about others isn't it, helping them to face their challenges and fears, but when its yourself, that's so different.
Over time, though, I have learned so much, faced so much and I am dealing with my own demons and inner bully in my head.
The key is to work on YOU. To work on your own destructive thought patterns and limiting beliefs. These are your real enemy, the ones that make answering the question who am I so difficult because you keep hearing the words 'not good enough' 'can't do that' or 'need to do better than that.' Sound familiar?
I have 2 key areas that I am focusing on, my mindset and my motivation for doing anything, in other words, my thoughts, my state of mind and my goals and direction. Once you have these, things look and feel very different.
Anyone know what I mean?

I rewound the tape.

This was brought about when the councillor asked my x why she picked me in the first place.

................ lots of positive reasons !

So I rewound the tape to when I was younger. Carefree, ambition, could make my own decisions and a future ahead of me.

And thats how I live now. Im a recycled teenager !!!

I feel your pain man, have similar situation.. Try turn to lawyer

The question I ask myself many times. Getting married at 19 to the love of my life. Giving up everything to follow him wherever work took him. Leaving friends and family and making a perfect life with my best friend. Changing my name to become the other half of him. 30 years of being one half of a whole. Suddenly im alone. The man that controlled every part of our lives just ups and leaves.I have already changed who I am when I was young and in love, im not sure I can or want to make a new identity at this stage in my life. I am in a better place than I was a year ago but its not the life I would chose.
Thanks for the positivity, every little helps. All the best to everyone on the ride of their life.