Think of a time when you were first dating someone you eventually went on to spend some life path time with. Ahhh, remember the heady days of the romantic stage, fondly known as the honeymoon period. He/she could do no wrong, you noticed every little detail about the way they walked, talked and dressed and you positively brimmed over with pride and lust and maybe a sprinkling of early love! Your body was feeding you with love hormones and everything was just rosy in nest heaven.
As another ‘celebrity’ marriage bites the dust the couple involved insist that they remain, ‘very close and the greatest of friends’. I sincerely hope this to be true, divorce can be a brutal process that I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. And if from the wreckage of broken promises and dreams a genuine friendship can be salvaged then that is to be respected, applauded even.
No one gets married with the intention of divorcing. That would be madness. But the fact is that some 3000 people divorce each week in the UK. That’s epidemic proportions. If 3000 people a week were contracting measles there would be a public outcry and the government would step in to begin an immunisation programme immediately.
So if it’s not bad enough that you’re separated or divorced, but now it’s that time of year when you’re reminded at every turn - love is in the air - it’s Valentine’s Day! Well if you’re feeling less than enthusiastic about the 14th February this year, take heart (excuse the pun) and read on for some top tips to surviving the day.
One of the biggest emotions people feel following a divorce is a sense of failure. Why is this? Why do we think we have failed if we can’t live with the same person forever? People change, lifestyles change. You could look at it a different way - deciding not to be together is not failing; it is evolving. In years gone by getting divorced was scandalous but times have changed and a huge percentage of marriages end in divorce.
Divorce Recovery Workshop is a nationwide registered Charity and a non-profit organisation, it is a series of 6 sessions; aimed at helping people come to terms with the break up of a relationship. They don’t have to have been ‘married’, people can also have been living together, and even people with same sex partners.
I was inspired today after my hot yoga class, to write about how people really get stuck in to the drama of their emotions. I watched people as they literally fought with their bodies throughout the class, one to deal with the extreme temperatures which were well over 80 degrees and two, to force their bodies into postures that "dear old bod" was not ready for.
As spring approaches with the promise of new growth and lighter days and as winter's grip loses her hold you may well be starting to think about spring cleaning your life. A few people I know are making big changes in their love relationships including some that are ending because they feel they can't communicate anymore and the lack of being able to speak the same "language" has brought forth ....adios....farewell ..next!
Is this you? You’re not as young as you were with the kids reminding you that carefree days of little responsibility are behind you. But you’re halfway attractive, look after yourself and expect intimacy and love. You may even be happy in your marriage, except for one thing - your sex life is non- existent.