Magazine - Starting Over

When married we look forward in anticipation of sharing major life events as life partners – birthdays, anniversaries, Christmases, weddings, graduations… We don’t anticipate finding ourselves suddenly cast adrift from everything that we hold dear, our spouse, our family, our home.  The pain of separation and divorce is devastating and its aftershocks can reverberate for a long time across our lives and relationships.

What other people want most from you after you divorce is to get over it. As quickly as possible. And talk about something else. And not make untoward demands for too long. Do 'normal' things such as get dating again or being your reliable old self.

Many people living in a bad relationship often find themselves daydreaming of being single and I was no different. And now that I am, is my new life what I envisioned it to be? Well, almost, and in a moment I’ll tell you why. However, as you read, please bear in mind that what I’ve written is my perspective based on my experience.

Unfortunately, in these times of recession, more and more couples are having to stay living in the same house, even though they’ve split up and may be going through a divorce. This can increase the stress of going through a divorce to unbearable levels. There are a few things you can do to try and make sharing a house more bearable.

Packing up your home and moving into a new one can be daunting. There is often so much to do, and knowing where to begin can be difficult. Hopefully these tips will help make the move less stressful.

I don't normally make resolutions because I know they'll be broken a week later and who wants to start the year feeling a failure?

A good proportion of my clients are men over 40; successful high achievers... They have dutifully played the part our society scripts out for successful, high achieving men: they have a noteworthy career, a wife and children and a certain standing in the world. They've earned the respect of others.

What does the term middle aged love birds do to you – does it make you cringe?

Famous for his tea-making proclivity to the Wikivorce membership, very few know that Richard Green is a published author. Richard offers Wikizine's readers a peep into his self help book 101 Empowering Questions.

Are you the person who takes on responsibility for all your family and your friends. Do you find that people come to you for advice?  Every family has someone who acts as the Kahuna, the Agony Aunt or Uncle, the Peacemaker.  The problem often is that that person then doesn’t have anyone to turn to for their own problems!

In starting over, following a life-changing event, we sometimes need to feel inspired to take a new direction. Tom Evans (aka The Bookwright) coaches and inspires that would-be author that I firmly believe resides in each of us. In this first article, Tom talks us through the myriad changes that technology has brought to the world of publishing.

Over the course of the last 6 years I have spent more time living with my mother than I have since I was 9 years old. Some of the time I have been embarrassed, sometimes even mortified.  At other times, I’ve been sad, guilty and fear stricken. Many times I’ve forgotten to be grateful.