This is my 3rd attempt to write this-increasing my frustration!! The 1st 2 attempts were at work, as b*****d stbx called home on Thurs eve + buggered up the computer, but I refuse to let him continue to try + beat me down. I managed to get hold of a very nice mobile repairer lady who has successfully-after 2.5 hrs + £40 managed to get my computer up + running again-phew.
Stbx invited my son to meet him at the large shopping centre 20miles from here on Sat. Why there?-he hates shopping anyday, but more so on busy Saturdays. I was immediately suspicious of his motives + voiced this to my son-I bet he wants you to meet the 'new woman'. My son said his girlfriend had also said that, but he thought his dad actually wanted to spend some time with him. Guess who was right? He didn't even have the decency to ask our son if he was ok with it! As a result my son is now angry with himself for agreeing to meet his dad-he said he felt really uncomfortable when she-with her 2 young daughters in tow-turned up. They even invited him back to 'their' place. Bearing in mind they have only been together 2 weeks!! Who in their right mind would introduce a new partner to their young kids that soon. My son is 20 + he's horrified, + also very upset at realising he has been manipulated + that his dad didn't actually want to spend time with him. I could scream with frustration. I want to phone him up + tell him what a selfish b*****d he is-but he wouldn't take any notice as he doesn't see himself like that. No doubt hes impressed his new love with his impeccable parenting skills-after all he has shown her what a lovely polite son he (joke!!!) has bought up. Nope, I'll take the credit for that one! Heaven help those 2 young girls having 2 supposedly recovering alcoholics bringing them up. If she thinks he'll be faithful + reliable, she will be in for a shock. Here's hoping she is as bad as he is + then it might make him think!
I came home from work, to find he's been here-eaten food from my cupboards, used the washing machine+ my washing liquid-so obviously wasn't a quick call in. I feel my personal space has been violated. What can I do to stop this? Absolutely nothing!!!
I see my petition has arrived. His solicitor is recommending he goes with the adultery that I have cited-because of the evidence " I am under the impression that I have" Heaven knows what that is meant to mean-I would have thought that the photos I have of stbx (+ not soon enough) having sex with another woman was more than just being "under the impression". Still, what would I know eh? Does the fact he is now living with another woman + he leaves his till receipts for condoms lying around count too? My blood boils!!!
I feel so impotent (if only he was!!!). His solicitor is telling him just to offer to pay 1/2 my costs in exchange for not contesting the petition!! Am I meant to be grateful for this? Forgive me for not being able to yet. What's karma?- I definitely haven't got any at the mo!
Scuse the ranting-better I hammer on the keyboard than b*****ds head!!