Its 03:39:27 according to the time log :-) Ive been in these room a lot times now in the early hours of the morning looking round all the posts hoping that some where I can get a incline of what the hell to do, Ive read posts that make mine look trivial and made me as angry as the person who wrote them feels in dislike of the partner who has done this *+/$%^ thing to us all or in some cases themselves.
Anway, its not just me thats cold sitting here but my brain also, more and more as the days draws near to the court date Im struggling to find what I think I need to take to court so here goes I need help/advice of how to approach this, Ill try to keep it brief, but if anyone needs the full fact I can enter them if needed. In 2000 my ex left after I had stopped her handling the house finances. Over the 26 years of marrige 17 of those were trying to stop her drinking and seek help all to no avail so she left taking what was left in the bank and houseold furnishings, how she got a house so quick I have no idea but she did, so one question is can I request a soliciter to find out the reason from the council as its sheltered housing she moved to and ive been told that she has said I was hitting her, it is infact the opposite my head bares the scars and my body from items Ive been hit with in my sleep including knives all because Ive taken her drink away and poured it down the drain.
Soo she applied for the divorce and the process went ahead and I was asked to not claim costs, I agreed all seemed very smooth and I was asked to settle her with a financial offer as she wanted to go home in a few days, funny I thought she has just been given a house, after some shuffling and financial reasoning off how I can keep thing going ie mortgage the best deal I could come up with was an offer of £10000 but to get this together I would need to remortgage the house which she agreed to sign over to me to be able to arrange it. During this interval of course the debts started to come in as she was no longer there to hide the letters, then debt collecters came to the door and people to reposes stuff I had never even seen. I spoke to her about all this anmd she said I shant repeat the words *&^%$£"!£$%%^^&**^$%$$£ tough £$%$ later that day as the need for more of her want got to her and the fella that moved in with her I was asked to settle the deebts and she would just accept the £10000 and not have anything else, so by this time she had got legal aid and as I was working I couldnt but had to get a soliciter, she was in such a hurry to get the cash she refused her soliciters advice signed a agreement letter witten up by my soliciters and presented to hers, she signed it under their protest to get her hands on the money, then the problems started trying to get her to court she wasnt answering letters from her soliciters so they dropped her case and she wasnt answering my soliciters letters in the end my son and duaghter had to recieve letters at their houses to give to her to make sure she had them, then we struggled for 2 years trying to get her to agree to a court date for the financial settlement and nobody seen anything of her in that period until last year when she turned up penniless and siad she wasnt in her right mind when she took her money and now wants half of every thing.
So Grr I have no idea what to do now, I had assumed unfortuntly that it was all over after a two years of nothing and never kept any paper work of debts I had cleared and transactions taken place in an extra cash payment to her of an extra £1735 for what she said was travelling expenses (she never left the county) or went over the border back home. since then the house has of course improved in value and I have now got a pesnion that has kicked in that pays my mortage now, which is a good job as since then I have had two hosptial stays with exauhstion of over work to pay the debts off, a heart attack and in the last two months a stroke. I have no idea now of how to prove the debts left behind or the monies she has recived apart from what was handed to her by the soliciters.
how do I stand in this and what should I do, has any one got an idea of what I may have to face preferably not being homeless as if this is sold there will not be enough to buy another house or with my age even the time. Out of my pension there is £173.00 left after paying my mortgage of 503.00 Im not allowed any benfits because of my pension I have tried believe me but the answer has been NO. so the £173 is all I have to live on for the month,
so help please if you can