Well I have had news on decree nisi. The judge has thrown it out because he wants specific dates the adultry was committed, even though my Stbx has admitted it. What does it matter? So I have to pay another £95 and associated sol costs for a new petition. I can't understand it! Mt solicitor doesn't understand it! It just drags everything on. I have decided not to have any contact with Stbx at all, after he abused me on the phone the other day and I cried for a day and a half. The kids both have mobiles but at the minute have decided not to see him, so there are no arrangements to be made. He can make his own arrangements and contact, I guess I don't have to get involved. I have tried to be as amicable as I can, but him and his ow are out to get me and for my own sanity I need to look after myself so I can be strong for the kids.