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The Master Plan

A Updated

Hot on the heals of the previous post, what's the deal after the actual split? I'll be living on my own (sniff) and have time to kill. So here's The Plan:

1) I need to vastly improve my Spanish.

As I live in Spain and will not be able to depend on X2B and her significantly better but still faltering Spanish to handle all the communications for me, I've got to pull my finger out and get on with it. So that means custody of the tapes, CD,s books etc. that have sat on the bookshelf, unloved, for months and months.

2) Daddy and daughter time

I will have to work out what to do with the small person during her visits. I think week days are OK, it'll just be time at "home" and such, playing, colouring in (oooooo how I love colouring in, especially when it's Disney Princesses, particularly Jasmine. Erm, I might have over shared just a bit there) etc. Weekends will be another challenge all together. I need to have at least one "thing" to do out of the house to prevent boredom etc. but I need to be careful that I don't go over the top and do too much, spend too much money.

3) Study Chi Kung

This is a form of Tai Chi although more for health and fitness than as a martial art. I studied it before for a while and the benefits were extraordinary. A lot more energy, general health improvements and feeling of well being.

4) Practice Karate

I started a while ago but had to give up due to money. Can't pay for lessons but I am fortunate enough to have a friend who is a Black Belt 3rd Dan and he's sent me all sorts of videos and books and stuff so I can self study. You shouldn't really do it like that but needs must when the devil vomits in your kettle.

5) Meditate

I first found the benefits of meditation a few years ago when I suffered a series of migraines. I found meditation immensely helpful not only in the perspective of calming but also in general life, making me more able to cope in general without getting stressed out.

6) Lose weight / get fit

This is an ongoing process, so far so good. Now I will have time on my hands I can keep on with this and must keep the momentum going.

7) Career planning

I need to improve the professional side of my life. I've let it slip recently and am a little out of touch so I'm going to have to work on that. This means more studying and such like. First things, first, I need to decide on a direction for my future career. Information Security or Compliance. Oh, how exciting that will be!!! (Not!)

8) Not find a woman

Not interested in that side of things for the time being. I think I'm going to be quite "happy" overall, to be on my own and do my own thing. Famous last words? Maybe. But for the moment, I'm not really interested in meaningful female company and I don't think it would be fair to such a lady anyway. I definitely feel like "damaged goods" at the moment. (That said, if Sandra Bullock, Halle Berry or Salma Hayek ring me up again I might do them a favour....)


So, I think that is all I can think of for the moment. The most concerning one is number 2, because it is the most important to me. That's going to take the most effort and be the most stressful until such time as I've got it sorted. Obviously, I've looked after my daughter on my own before but this is different, more pressure. More pressure for it not to be boring. To make sure that we do stuff that she likes.

Other than that, it's a goood plan. Whether I stick to it or not is another matter!!



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@sals44. Yep, what a turnaround. I can only think that my 'total immersion therapy' of listening to any and every sad / split related song I could find worked. That and allowing myself to get a bit angry.

@fio. Sport on with the sporting term, we'll make an avid rugby union watcher out of you yet!!!

On a connected note, I think X2B would benefit from a plan as she's starting to panic a bit about 'what happens after you've gone'.
Its a damn good idea to have a plan, even if you dont stick to it or change it along the way - it keeps you focussed on the future and helps to kick the negative feelings into touch (sporty term - hope its right)
It's amazing when you think about where you were.

It is strange when reality hits home and you can actually say..too bad honey..

Your head has regained control...not that you have forgotten what you had, you've hit the reality check of the situation.

But remember you can always change your mind but hopefully on your terms.

Waiting for the next instalment.