I can't say for sure what my intentions are. As it becomes more and more clear to me that my wife has decided that we will not be married in the future, I have resorted to the following e-mail. Part of my intention is to make her think about what we have, while part of it is to embed notes for comparison into her subconsious. Will her new partner be all of these things that she knows to be true?
Just read please. We don't need to discuss.
Pros? (just to name a few)
We like the same music.
We like the same movies.
We like the same foods.
We have identical religious views.
We have similar views on homosexuality.
We have the same views on abortion.
We have similar political views.
We love new cultures.
We love to travel.
We can talk for hours.
We don't argue.
I will never, ever, raise my hand to you.
I never insult you.
I never treat you with disrespect.
We both like biking.
We both like camping.
We both like roller coasters.
We have a perfect son together.
We both love our puppies.
I cook, clean, do handywork, yard work, car work.
I love everyone in your family. And I love being a part of it. I think they love me too.
Everyone in my family loves you.
I will move with you anywhere in the world without hesitation.
I will love you until my last day on this earth. Even if you are not with me.
I need to get a job I love, so I can appreciate how much you love yours. Maybe I should get back into gaming. From a technical or analytical side - what I really enjoy. Or teaching maybe.
We need a babysitter more often.
I don't have family money or a trust fund, but I keep buying a lottery ticket once in a while.
I know you don't want to hear it, but there are so many things that are good. So few that are bad. I just wish you would have given me the chance to try harder on the things that made you feel "disassociated from me". I would have really tried. I thought what I was doing was helping you get what you wanted.
~your husband, and proud of it~