Aim in life from age of 6 - get married and have children. Met him just before starting university, started going out during the Christmas holidays, went back and wanted to leave - what's the point of doing a BA when I'd found a man? He insisted I stay, we got married three weeks after I graduated. Five years and a day later, we had a son, two years and two months later (with an ectopic pregnancy in between), a daughter. Whilst I was pregnant with her, a new woman joined our drama group. Seemed nice enough, although I got fed up with her always wanting my husband to fix stuff in her flat.
Our daughter was three weeks old when he was offered a job 80 miles from home. He commuted, we rented, then moved there a week after her birthday. By the time she was five, he'd suggested we divorce, we'd been to Relate, sorted it all out, then he changed his mind. Preferred sitting in a field with the wind blowing on his face. Against his wishes, I saw a solicitor,who asked if he had a mistress. Of course not! A couple of months later, I confronted him having been given hints by a mutual friend, and he admitted it. Divorce initially rejected because he was still officially living in the marital home. Finally managed it November 1995.
A year later, sold the marital home, gave him his percentage, and bought my own home back close to family and friends. Brought up the children. No relationships. No confidence. No self-esteem. Finally improved enough to do a PGCE (primary teaching), a year and two terms after teaching had a breakdown, have had severe depression for the last three years.