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rejected fathers- some research results

ignatz
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It seems I am not alone.

 

Parental alienation is the process, and the result, of the psychological manipulation of a child into showing unwarranted fear, disrespect or hostility towards a parent and/or other family members.[1][2] It is a distinctive and widespread form of psychological abuse and family violence—towards both the child and the rejected family members—that occurs almost exclusively in association with family separation or divorce (particularly where legal action is involved)[3] and that undermines core principles of both the Universal Declaration of Human Rights and the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child. Most commonly, the primary cause is a parent wishing to exclude another parent from the life of their child, but other family members or friends, as well as professionals involved with the family (including psychologists, lawyers and judges), may contribute significantly to the process.[1][4] It often leads to the long-term, or even permanent, estrangement of a child from one parent and other family members[5] and, as a particularly adverse childhood experience, results in significantly increased risks of both mental and physical illness for children.

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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parental_alienation

We must stop turning children against divorced fathers

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/relationships/fatherhood/11342027/We-must-stop-turning-children-against-divorced-fathers.html

Girl 'coached by mother' to believe father rejected her

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-surrey-29848060


Families Need Fathers

https://fnf.org.uk
Perhaps I can head off to one of their meetings?
https://fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings

 

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You are by no means alone, although that doesn't make it any easier to cope. As bad as it is for you, research shows that the children involved in the alienation suffer psychological and physical effects, sometimes into adulthood. For that reason alone it is very difficult to justify a parent's choice to alienate the other parent. Most reasonable people can see that the child, who is the innocent in all this, is being 'punished' too and it's wrong.

There are undoubtedly cases where there is real physical or moral danger from the other parent, it is sometimes necessary to seek an injunction to prevent contact, but they are surely the rare exception.

Several wikis are in the same situation as you Ig and are in despair of ever seeing their children again and fearful of how their child/children will have changed when they do meet again.

Hopefully the media coverage will highlight the problem in the public's awareness. In the meantime it seems a good idea to go to meetings of support groups for people dealing with the fallout from being alienated from your children.