My pension is worth more than his - mainly because I have been paying into mine for 29 years. He has been paying into his for 15. We have been married for 14 years.
His proposal has come in and he wants a pension sharing order that I give him £150K of my pension. He also wants 65% equity of the house.
My solicitor has just come back to me to say "let me know what your response is". I was hoping they may have given me some guidance on whether this is realistic in terms of what the court would order or not, but they haven't given any advice.
As I am primary carer and have the children 80% of the time, does this proposal sound likely to be something a judge would enforce? The parent who has children 1/2 nights per week gets 65% of the equity?
Any advice useful because I don't seem to be getting any from my solicitor.
I would say that it is perfectly reasonable for pension accrued prior to narruage/cohabitation to be excluded given the number of years of contributions involved.
One thing is your respective ages and when you may be able to access funds from the pension.
It may be that you will need an actuary to look at how the pensions should be treated. Police pensions are pretty valuable. Your final salary scheme may also be very good but possibly not as good in terms of benefits.
As you have pension assets and are able to shake out 35k through a maximum mortgage now, it may be worth looking at offsettung some of your pension against equity. So maybe it is an 80:20 split of equity but he is compensated with a chunk of your pension that could be transferred into a scheme that would allow him to cash it in at 55?
This allows for the children's housing needs to be met, if he can get a mortgage with that amount of deposit, he could hopefully buy a suitable place, if he has a big mortgage he can pay a chunk off at 55, you wouldnt feel the pain of the pension share so badly as you keep the premarital pension, and you can have a Clean Break which is what the courts prefer.