Circumventing court order

Personally, I think phone contact is intrusive, and more for the parents'' benefit than the children''s. Every day sounds somewhat excessive.

The children are only speaking directly to Mum - I agree that passing on messages is a bit off, but remember (and Im going form your previous posts here), Mum''s partner has been a part of your children''s lives for quite some time now, and if they aren''t distressed by the messages, then I would leave it at that. You being upset by this is just something that I''m afraid you are going to have to deal with

The children have been aware of him for about 6 months but not throughout the time as mums boyfriend. I do find the phone contact to be intrusive and she regularly forgets, makes excuses or just doesn''t call anyway. The children don''t seem bothered by missing calls. My eldest, my son, is bothered if I don''t speak to him when he''s with his mother and likes to make our calls as long as possible.

So the issue is that when children speak to mum, he is in background commenting. Think it would be rather petty to take this issue back to court, as don''t think technically you could say he is contacting them directly.

Have to agree with Ruby, phone contact is definitely for the benefit of the adult not child.

Ok cheers. It''s just I need another perspective because I know I''m still raw over all this. I will leave it alone. Thank you