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It's quite amazing how the person you thought you knew and loved can turn so much against you when they are in the wrong and found out.
My Ex seems to have completly lost the plot.
Not only is she trying to cripple me financially by assuming that she can actually reduce the amount of cash she contributes to our marital debts; she now has decided that I can have no contact with my girls "because I ask them about her personal life".
The fact is that she was the one putting pressure on the marriage because she wanted to be with someone else.
The way she mistreats our son (who she left behind despite me begging her not to break my children up), absolutly appals me.
She hasn't contacted him for over two weeks now; I phone my girls at least three times a day and she NEVER asks to speak to him - it's like he isn't her son anymore.
Looks like now we will have to get the courts involved to agree contact. Problem is that I will not be dictated to by anyone about when I HAVE to see my girls. If I can't see them and speak to them when I want to then I have to ask myself "why should I see them at all?"
I'm going to get legal advice before we start proceedings to sell the hosue (only thing we own jointly) as I have a few questions about how it's split, contents of house, etc. or whether we should wait for divorce to go through and courts decide - can someone advise best?
I also don't want to sell the house until he confirms he's slept with her. I need this to get closure and move on. Can I do this without it seeming like blackmail? I don't want to push him into it, but it will drag for ages and he will keep telling me to leave him alone. For personal reasons I need him to sleep with her to move on.
I have days when I feel strong and capable and then I just can't believe it's happening to me and end up in a sobbing mess. How do you cope with the ups and downs of your emotions?
Thanks all for your replies.