Update:
Oh my Gosh. Stbx is now having major wobbles about the house he has just bought. He only saw it once before buying and knew it needed some work on it. Now he realises just what a massive job it will be. New kitchen, new bathroom, Windows are cracked and broken, back door doesn't lock, carpets ruined, dog s**t all over the garden etc! It's uninhabitable and he reckons it will take him around 3-6 months to complete all the work! On top of which, he has no DIY skills whatsoever, so will need to find trades people to do all the work. All this while having a full time job. PLUS, the house is a 3 hour round trip from here.
He has gone into a massive depression about it and says he's made a huge mistake (not with wanting to separate, but in buying a run down property so far from
FMH and children). I should point out, everyone (me, his family, friends, counsellor) advised him to rent initially, just to avoid this kind of mistake. But as you may be able to tell, he does NOT like to take advice.
Yet again, we are at an impasse. I finally thought we could move on with our lives. My solicitor is all ready to file
divorce petition. But he is currently so stressed, so miserable, irritable and at times, downright nasty, that throwing a petition at him while he's still at home would be horrendous for me and the kids.
He's asked me to hold on booking
mediation for the time being, and doesn't want to tell the children just yet as he's 'not sure what he's doing yet and can't face the stress of telling the kids' while he's feeling so stressed himself at the moment!
Aah! Two years on from when he first said he wanted to leave, he's STILL here and we are no further forward! He's cashed in our savings to pay for this house, spent at least a couple of grand on furniture (which is all stuffed in the garage), not to mention money on surveys, solicitors fees etc and now says he's not sure what he's doing??? Latest is, he wants to sell the house as soon as he's done it up and sell it to buy somewhere closer!
I can't live with this uncertainty. To top it all he hates his job and says he will either quit or be sacked soon!
Is this a classic mid life crisis? Anyone else had an ex/living with a partner who has completely lost the plot?
