Getting started with my divorce

Thanks Shezi.

Whilst I remain hopeful that his senses might soon return to him I am making the mental preparations in case that does not happen and he takes a turn for the worse.

I shall continue to try and seek the amicable resolution we were so nicely coasting towards and have decided that I''m not going to get upset about it anymore.

His next email reply will determine my next move. If he opts not to play ball then I may well have to go ahead and let him decide if his hot air is worth doing anything more with.

Not doing quite so well today.

I''ve had a series of awful nights sleep and I''ve had a couple of stressful days at work to top it off.

I''m yo-yoing between thinking things will probably fall back into place and then feeling exceptionally scared and worried that he''s somehow going to manage to destroy everything I''ve worked to achieve on my own since we split.

I know the main way to seek clarity would be to get a solicitor and start getting some serious advice, but the logical part of my head keeps telling me that there is very little if anything to actually fight about. I have £5k in savings that I''ve saved since we split and have no idea whether this would cover solicitor fees or not, and I also deeply begrudge spending it on him. Particularly as my job situation is incredibly shaky.

I just want him out of my life both in terms of the marriage and the property. Feeling very upset, tired and fragile tonight.

I can empathise there...

Stay strong

Hello again, thought I''d post an update.

So he has replied...same sort of essay as before, point for point arguments, no compromises and naively refusing to ''consent to the divorce'' unless his financial issues are satisfied.

My reply which is still in draft form basically tells him where to go and that he should perhaps do some more research into the processes before he continues his ranting. All very polite and backed up by quotes from Direct Gov and the court forms/ guidance to support my current standpoint of course.

I''ve said I won''t enter into any further arguments / email dissertations on this matter and will be going ahead at my convenience.

The ball is now back in his court to decide how sensible he will be when he finally does receive the first bit of paperwork.

I''ll be sleeping on my reply before sending it to make sure I''m happy.

Feeling a little nervous still about it all but oddly ok at the moment.