His mistress has accessed my bank details!

hi i stopped a direct debit for gas and elec from my acc at bank ex had a friend working in bank and restarted it banks fraud department put it right but exs friend still there behind counter but i bet she doesnt do it again, but i wonder what shes done before thinking she would get away with it:S dave

You are doing some good clear thinking - sounds like its either total bank error and if so given the circumstances make sure you get a large amount of compensation, a letter of apology and demand that they take responsibility for retriving the post from the wrong address - they you will know if they have opened it or not (which is probably why husband cant own up)

Or they have have had a hand in it in which case take it all the way - the more you set your boundaries early on in divorce the quicker people learn not to mess with you.

Good luck
Rasher

PS dont read the thread on this site about opening other peoples post.

Hi I had a similar thing happen to me, wish I'd taken more action now tho!

Basically we took his name off the joint account. He had already opened a new account for himself. It was sometime before I noticed that I hadnt been getting any statements through.. I had been going regulary to the machine in the bank and getting statements printed so just assumed these were in place of the actual statement I used to get through the post.

It wasnt until I ordered a new cheque book and it didnt arrive that I went into the bank to chase it up.. and turns out that my statements had been going to his address, as well as my cheque book. I asked stbx and he said he shredded them.. yeah right - maybe so, but after he had had a good read I bet.

Explaination from the bank was that, as he was the first name on the account - that that changed the whole address. I kept the same account number.

Then aprox a month ago, I had back statements through as he had ordered them on MY account, as he wanted details of when it was a joint account - but the statements that came through were not only when we had the joint acccount but also when it was just mine. I was livid... Bank then said that they came through to me and not sent directly to him, for the reason that account was no longer joint.... Then to top it all, charged me a fiver, for something I hadnt even asked for! I did give himm the pages up to the date he left. don't see why he needed anymore.

Hope you get things sorted out.

Same here too. Changed joint acct to my sole name only - with stbx's agreement .. and it took months to get them to understand it was MY account and the statements shd be coming to ME and not being sent to his address. It is not as if we even had the same surname .. I never used my married name.

So this could be bank error... but bad enough if it is that .. a lot more serious if it isn't.

Hadenoughnow

The Bank must have a record of the signiture that signed for the card? If she's forged yours then that is theft / fraud!

I'd go to the Police. Even if they don't take any action; then you at least have a Crime Reference Number.
In months to come, you may find she has clocked up expenditure and you're liable!

I'd at least have it noted as THEFT... and your Crime Ref Number will prove it reported.

Saw my husband yesterday. Decided not to confront him with the account addresses changes, as I wasn' sure I'd stay calm. Instead I casually mentioned that I was concerned as I hadn't received any bank statements. Thought this would give him the opportunity to admit that they had gone to hers. That way if it was a bank error he could explain that. He didn't! His reply was "Oh haven't you" So I said that I was going to pop into bank this morning to see what has happened. Again he didn't say anything.
So today I'm going to contact the bank, find out if there are two authorities on the change request and ten go to the police!

Having read some other forum posts I understand it is an offense to retain and well as open other peoples post. So if he had admitted that they had my statements and returmed them unopened I would have only had an issue with the bank. Now I'm more sure that this is a case of delibrate fraud.

I'll let you know what happens.
S

Are you more concerned about the address or the fact they can see your details.

Please put things in persepctive. I have had fraud on my account where money was taken that had been paid in to cover an over draft. I have been accused of criminal damage (was with my parents at the time!) and accused of tricking my husband into having our children.

None of this is taken into account during the divorce proceedings.

Your stbx is entitled to see you bank statements any way as part if the ancillary process. So he has seen them early

As someone down the line - you are angry you hurt but imho ( and I am sure many will disagree) going to the police before you know the facts will not progress anything.

BTW you don't need a crime number from the police for the banks to deal with fraud they have their own internal department.