Life DURING Divorce!

A year ago I didn't think I'd get through it without some kind of breakdown. It was a huge struggle. All I could do was get through it. I tried to behave as well as I could, which wasn't always very well.

I don't know if it helps anyone else, but I am through it, although the divorce itself drags on. I'm really glad to be out of the marriage and on my way to freedom. I'm enjoying my life more than I have for years. It took a while. I think you may just have to trust that things get better. Prepare to muddle through and do your best for a while - and note the little things you enjoy. Even a moment of pleasure is a sign that you'll survive.

I hope that helps a bit - I know some people may feel as though life will never get better, because that's how it seemed to me this time last year.

I agree with you. My first year "in divorce" 2005,was a battle of solicitors doing nothing, ex didn't contact me (still haven't spoken since July 2005) ex didn't contact solicitor, it was limboland. Could have gone either way, with me having to move, or staying. As it was I stayed, guilt on his part. Second year 2006, much better. Got house 2nd June 06, and divorce 3rd June 06. Could't celebrate, used all surplus funds, but its all mine. Got new job Oct2006 earning £4000 more! Then another £1000 rise in April 07. Met man of my dreams May 2007, his marriage was over (?) wife divorcing wanting huge payout, now won't agree settlement, so he has gone back to see if he can salvage it. She doesn't want him, just money, I have heart strings she has purse strings. Patience is a virtue. I went with a girlfriend to enjoy live music last night, had great time, whilst they spend the night arguing again.

Whatever will be, will be, but hold your head high.

Hi luv, I feel the same as you but I'm determined that he's not going to break me so ....

I've decided to take piano lessons - it'll give me something to do during the evenings and hopefully make me enjoy life a lot more.

After that I wanted signing lessons - these are all things I wanted to do as a kid but being married and a mum hasn't allowed me to do yet.

Don't let them win luv, pretend you're having a great time and eventually you will.

Becky xx

Wise words from Becky.

Look at divorce as a chance to redesign your life. Try new things, meet new people. I promise it does get better. I'm happier now than I've ever been.

Annie

god - how I wish I could envisage that!!!!!!!!!!!

Hello People

I like the idea of divorce being the opportunity to redesign your life!

The lonliness is a killer though... that, and the fact you have to fill up your own wine glass. Knew my ex had a purpose....

Yes lost the glass filler, but make the bottle last 4 days!