Boo
The most important thing here is to work out what you need and then go backwards from that to see how it can be achieved with the assets you have. Bear in mind that after a long marriage the start point is 50:50 and you will have to come up with good reasons to depart from that.
As others have said, the pension is a very vaulable asset and almost certainly grossly undervalued by the
CETV. This is important and will make a big difference if you either offset (and Dukey is right about the way discounting happens - it is controversial but many DJs work on a 25% figure)or if you are not able to pension share with in his scheme. If you cannot pension share within the scheme you will only get a percentage of the CETV to invest in another pension.
What you need to know is whether the pension scheme he is in allows
pension sharing within it on divorce. This is VERY important. If it does, then a pension share may be well worth going for as you will have your own pension in the scheme including a 25% tax free lump sum on retirement. This guaranteed benefit can be used to help pay off any mortgage you need to secure to house yourself adequately.
It may well be worth asking for a statement of benefits for the fund as it stands now (benefits on retirement assuming no more payments are made in). This will give you guidance as the the "true" value. The lump sum that may be taken on retirement is, as I have said, 25% of the gross find value.There would need to be some adjustments for tax but it would give you a ball park figure. (In my case the gross value of the pension was TWICE the CETV - and the CETV was less than 200k - therefore the lump sum was nearly 100k))
Finding this out will give you a clearer idea of what you are potentially giving up if you opt for more equity now instead of a pension share. Remember also you will giving up entitlement to widow's pension which can be valuable.
Get up to date current values for the endowment policies. Signing these over is a painless way of sharing some of the cash assets but as it stands they do appear to account for only around 15% of the available "cash" pot. (equity circa 180, endowments circa 35k)
You also need to find out what size mortgage you could get on your income. It may be as much as 45k+ and you could consider having it on an interest only basis to be paid off by pension lump sum (see above).
Your strict "need" in terms of the 1973 Matrimonial Causes Act sec 25 is for a one bed property. A court may well base decisions on this. They would certainly expect you to be in a property that is affordable ... probably no more than 2 beds.
You need to research suitable alternative properties - look at shared ownership options as well.
Once you have done this research you will be better placed to formulate an offer that works for you and hopefully will help you avoid the expense of court. Do the research yourself - don't expect your solicitor to do it. You will do a better job because you care about it - and getting a solicitor to do it would be very costly.
I hope this makes sense. I really would advise you to make sure you have all the right information before agreeing to anything that could disadvantage you in the future.
Hadenoughnow