Why Do Women

Chris / Jay, I just found this, it's the sanest thing I've read; re: behaviour. You may see similarities that help with your original question of 'why'



tearsandhealing.com/sociopath3.htm?utm_c...PElo4CFQfilAodWg8pOw

Ha ha Sera. Sounds like my ex. I think she had all of these things. I know she accused me of trying to make her go mad and it was always my fault. She had an affair. My fault. The kids turned against me. My fault again. The last one was from the fat coach driver. Perhaps they both have it. But at times she was remorsful. A couple of times she sat the kids down and told them that I did nothing wrong and all this happened becuase of the affair she had!!!!!!! Totaly amazing behavour. But it did no good as they are still gone. Dont get me wrong. I wouldnt have them back now. Chris.

my wife is a poor communicator, she is small minded, not very sociable, can't remember her childhood & she is a cheater & a Liar.

I just class her as "not a very nice person".

Fiona wrote:

introducing a new partner to their children soon isn't gender specific! In fact if numbers were important I think you would find it's men who tend repartner more quickly.

I don't know why some people are in such a rush, it seems much better to me to sort out the divorce, settle finances and establish childcare arrangements first. One of the major factors in highly conflicted divorces which are so detrimental to the emotional well being of children is new partners (or close friends and family members) who take on disputes between divorcing/separating couples as their own. Another major factor for poor outcomes for children is multiple changes to the family structure and around 50% of step families break down within a year. In my experience children rarely "turn their heads" just because of things said to them.

However, I think if the first marriage doesn't work out people are entitled to try again and they don't choose when they fall in love.

I don't think people do it to be evil or difficult. I've been separated for my husband for a few months though the marriage was really over years ago. The guy I'm seeing (yup, I'm dating) has two daughters and a wife he is currently divorcing. I haven't met his daughters yet and if things get serious, I'll meet them only after his divorce has been finalized. You don't pick when you fall in love or who you fall in love with and why should our current difficult circumstances get in the way of something potentially great? It certainly wouldn't change who his childrens' parents are.

Disriptive hair. Ha ha. I have days like that!!

Good for you that you met someone. And its a good idea to delay meeting the kids whilst divorce matters are in progress. The kids have enough to deal with. Chris.

hi disruptive hair, so you split from your husband a few months ago & are now dating a guy with 2 children who still isn't divorced?

didn't hang around did you? Didn't fancy being single then?

jay160602 wrote:

hi disruptive hair, so you split from your husband a few months ago & are now dating a guy with 2 children who still isn't divorced?

didn't hang around did you? Didn't fancy being single then?

Jay, I'm married to a cold fish who hasn't had sex with me in over three years and who is impotent. The marriage has been essentially over for a long time, so I don't feel like I've just become a single gal; I feel like I've been one for a while.

This fellow I'm dating would be divorced already if his wife was not asking for more alimony than a judge in Texas has the discretion to allow. He has the papers all drawn up waiting for her signature; she wants to fight because she doesn't work, he makes a lot of money, and she wants it ALL. Just think of how lucky my husband is; all I want from him is a divorce...no money.