Staying married for as long as possible

Ray 1976 wrote:

Thanks , so I sit back and wait for her to come to me then .
I''ll give her the nice easy divorce if she wants but she will have to take very little off me or of to court we go .
I''m not financing her life

Unless of course her circumstances change. Until the finances are sorted you are tied together. If she has a run of bad luck, loses her job, gets ill, blows everything she has etc she could turn up many years from now and be able to claim from you.

I see what your saying but don''t it work both ways .
Her job is safe and she has plenty of money , well more than me . Plus they are a 2 income family.
I think I''ll take my chances for now , we can get a 2 year seperation divorce in January 2017 , so not to long to wait .
Trust me she''s not stupid and won''t blow her money as she is tight .
I get were your coming from tho , thanks

I think you are being a bit short-sighted and not looking at the whole picture.

She has a right to a share in the value of the house, even if it is in your name.

You have a right to a share in her pension, even though that is in her name.

You may be able to trade one off against the other, but it will depend on the value of each. Until you engage properly with the process you will never know, and as Wyspecial says, if you don''t have a proper court order she could come back in years to come and make a claim. You need to have a Clean Break divorce if you can, as then you are clear of each other financially.

Both your solicitors could be correct - but the one suggesting £20k to her max may be assuming that she keeps all her pension. it might be better for you to have a share of that pension but buy her out of more of the house.

Best wishes,
Sadie

Thanks as well , I understand it all just don''t think its fair . But that''s just me hey

So what do I do with her ISA bank book with £10k in it , do I hold on to it till near the time or even after .
Surly she can do a honest financial disclosure without including it . Thanks