Wiki is wonderful ...tell the world!

It struck me that it was a bit sexist as well, when I read the first posting!

Being fairly new to Wiki - all I can say at the moment is that it seems to be saving me a lot of money, as the advice I'm getting is helping me to self rep.

Thanks so much for all your comments (apologies to Middi - my editor specified women as it's a women's mag)

Just wondering as well, how you feel about the crossover between the real world and the online world. Do you tell people about posting on Wiki? Do you confide stuff online which you would never tell anyone face-to-face? And does that actually help you through your divorce?

Am eager to know, and thank you all once again

Andreina

Andiewrites wrote:

Thanks so much for all your comments (apologies to Middi - my editor specified women as it's a women's mag)

Fair enough, Andiewrites.

Do you tell people about posting on Wiki?

In my opinion, it would be madness to undermine ones anonymity by sharing what we write with friends and family.

This place is a secret and will remain a secret. I would hate to think that someone in the "real world" would have the ability to direct my ex to this site and have to face her vindictiveness publicly.

Hi andiewrites

The thing about Wikivorce is that one has choice.

So as members, we can meet up socially in a large group (real world - fresh start), or just keep the contact to online.

I haven't told anyone in 'non wiki life' that I am on here, and I wouldn't want people that near to me to know what I post in forums. Namely because I feel one can get more apt support from others who have an affinity with your situation. Though my adult child does know I am on here and knows where I am when I go to events and meetings that are organised.

However, I do offer the web site details to people who need the support and advice if they are facing divorce/separation.

Wikivorce is more 'real world' than a lot of people think, mainly because of the awareness that it freely provides, and that people freely contribute to. In the 'real world' that you refer to; that awareness would cost one very dearly, having huge legal bills/debt on top of the trauma of somone walking away from a marriage is just cruel.

It is less daunting/embarrassing for most people to open up to anonymous responses. That is why magazines have agony aunt articles.

Hmmm I am probably gonna get hammered to death her but I always speak my mind!!!

Any chatroom, if it gives u comfort is a great place - they can also be very dangerous!

1. Always be aware that who u speak to may not be who they actually are.

2. There should be a stage where newbies are assessed before being allowed in the chatroom.

3. Anybody disrepecting the rules should be taken into another room and spoke to privately - not banned - jeez these peeps r
suicidal.

4. So glad u stopped the pms - lethal.

5. Freedom of speech - we live in the 20th century.

6. Last but by no means least - make sure u never meet anyone of an internet website on your own.

The thing I found most difficult about getting divorced was the social shame, and feeling a marked change in the dynamic in many of my friendships and relationships. The advantage of wikivorce is finding many people in a similar situation who can empathise with you at a time when your other relationships may not be as supportive as you'd hoped. Even when you're not feeling up to much, you can connect with others whilst wearing your jim-jams, eating chocolate, and with tears pouring down your face.

Aside from the emotional support, I would also add that wikivorce is a great resource for those people who are aiming to navigate through the rather confusing UK legal system regarding divorce without paying for legal representation. Between having a few 'legal eagles' on site, and a plethora of people who've been-there-done-that, you can manage most of the simpler aspects of the divorce without lining the pockets of solicitors. You can also avoid some of the common pitfalls which hold things up or cause confusion.

Well said, elvis!