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what next? lodging a defence

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Tony48
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12 Feb 14 #422124 by Tony48

Topic started by Tony48

stbx has had a solictor sent a letter saying that she will lodge a defence given the UB allegations, of felling negilented etc.
1. is there a time frame in which i have to response
2. what do they mean by looking for my views?

dukey
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12 Feb 14 #422126 by dukey

Reply from dukey

She has 28 days to provide court with an "answer" of defence.

Chances are what they are really looking for is that you agree to amend those reasons, though it does sound quite inoffensive so not sure why.

Tony48
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12 Feb 14 #422128 by Tony48

Reply from Tony48

so i should ask her sol what grounds are unacceptable?
or just say see you in court?
this seems like a waste of money...how do i stop the hermogating £££..

dukey
Moderator

12 Feb 14 #422129 by dukey

Reply from dukey

Be careful with your words, the reasons you gave in s6 of the application are not "grounds".

It best just to ask what do you find offensive and how can we resolve this, you don''t want court, and your stbx is just wasting money really, you want a divorce, you want it without costing the earth, if that means playing nice then why not.

Tony48
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12 Feb 14 #422132 by Tony48

Reply from Tony48

thanks dukey, do i ask the sols the question or contact her directly and state that i want divorce without the court?

dukey
Moderator

12 Feb 14 #422137 by dukey

Reply from dukey

I''m a little suprised your solicitor hasn''t already suggested this, but yes it''s best that the solicitor handles this.

Tony48
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12 Feb 14 #422138 by Tony48

Reply from Tony48

ex says i leave no alternative as i have run out on her just now when she is struggling with bad knees etc .... can a divorce be stopped if one side is poorly and expects to be looked after?
i still pay all the house bills even her car maintenance which is now angering me ... she spents her money on sols .... and i pay her car repairs.
do i say i want the money to pay another sols...?

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