Husband visited prostitute and i just cant forgive

My husband is a jealous, possesive man. He had an affair within his first marriage. Often they project the blame. (My husband cited his wifes menopause as his reason to go elsewhere)... yours is angry, (and acts of sexual infidelity are often more about mens anger than they are about sex). The fact that it was pointless him doing it, unless you got to know about it, points to this also.
You didn't need to find out did you?

He sounds like an angry, frustrated control freak. He needs help.

Yes, double standards indeed!

Hi Rachel. At least you have got some medical advice. It must have been humiliating for you to go thru this. I know we are all different but I could never forgive something like this. When I got the good news May 7th 2006, all I wanted to do was get away. When I had the chance to have her back early June 2006 I just couldnt. It would always be there. Some people can forgive and forget. I just am not one of those people. I am not strong enough. We are all different. Maybe you in time could forgive.

IMHO lack of sex is no reason to seek the services of a prostitute. You are preganant!! He cannot expect that you perform your bedroom duties as before. Thats totaly unreasonable. Its normal to abstain when a women is pregnant.

Again IMHO is that sexual infidelity is the same as womens. Excitement. I dont think anger comes into it. A man should not be angry with his wife / partner. Thats just plain wrong. But I am weird. Chris.

Hi Racheal
I'm sorry you are going through this. It would be hard enough but adding the pregnancy makes it harder to work out.

Same thing happened to me when I was 6 months pregnant with my youngest except I caught Ex in the act. He begged forgiveness and we stayed together. I ended up feeling that I was over reacting, or at least thats what I was persuaded to believe. The whole incident was blamed on drink.

I dont think I ever really forgave him but we stayed together for another 9 years...then I fell for someone else and left him (long story).

I hope you find a way through this but belive me he had no excuse and he should not have done it. Nobody can tell you what to do you need to make that decision yourself and I hope you find the right solution.

Take care.

Seeing a prostitute is a pre-meditated act. And he can go back and do this at any time. It is like having a 24/7 on call mistress.

I do not like interfering in other people lives but in this case I say; walk away, don't look back you are worth more than this.