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I have been seperated for three and a half years embroiled in a financial dispute with my ex wife which is ongoing, I dismissed my solicitors 8 months ago as they were making no progress, I have subsequently secured residency of the two youngest children of the marriage and my eldest also lives with me (my ex is an acoholic) and I secured Decree Absolute 6 months ago. My ex's new solicitors (she is on her second set and has accumalated legal fee debts of in excess of £35k) keep raising the same questions time and again and as I am now trying to move on with my life and rebuild me fianacial stability (my ex occupies the former matrimonial home which has no mortgage) I have to keep declaring each new assett I aquire.
My question is when is the cut off in respect of assetts/wealth accumalated after the parties split/Decree Absolute being taken into account by the courts as far as financial setalment is concerned?
The best answer i can give on this is that the main cut off point is the date of the financial settlement (which in an acrimonious dispute could for example be the date of the final hearing).
So in your case I would say that all assets/debts/earnings are still up for grabs.
And unless you achieve a Clean Break in the settlement then in fact all assets / earnings remain up for grabs - i.e. if you do very well financially in the few years after a settlement was agreed then she could come back for more - by applying for a variation to the agreement.
If you cannot achieve a full Clean Break (to prevent the above) at least try to insist on a 'clean break on capital'. This means that while she could reapply in future for increased maintenance based on your increased earnings, she could not apply for any further assets.
Inheritance is treated slightly differently and especially inheritance received after the settlememt would be hard to make a claim on (but it would significantly reduce her needs and therefore you could apply to reduce SM on that basis).
The children living with you makes a big difference. They are the priority so their needs - and hence your household needs come first.
As carer for the three kids you will have a strong claim for a fair share of the assets including the former matrimonial home.