joined the site last night in an effort to check my rights. Basically we`ve been married for just over 2 years and we have a 20mth old daughter. We relocated when she was 8 wks old and I sold my house (in my sole name after a previous split) and put a 1/3 deposit down. In the last year he has helped me spend another £20k as well as running up an extra £3k on his credit card, which paid for his Playstation3 and HDTV and god knows what else.
Basically I struggled after the birth of our daughter, I didn`t want to leave my house but financially I didn`t have a choice so I was a full time mum for 15 months then got a weekend job due to childcare costs. He then got in touch with and "old female friend" and said he needed her to talk to and to meet up with on a weekend. So he spend his evenings on MSN messaging her while I sat on my own all night after being at home with a small child all day, needless to say I asked him to talk to me but he just shut down.
To cut a very long and boring short we went to counselling and it didn`t work so he asked for a divorce last week and is seeing his solicitor today. He has a 7 yr old to a previous marriage who he pays maintenance for but hasn`t seen for 2 years. I obviously need him to look after our daughter when I`m at work on the weekends.
Has anyone been through a similar scenario as I`m reluctant to bargain with him when I`ve got most to lose - financially.
Sorry about the rant but I feel a bit better now lol!
I bet U feel bitter. This is a sorry story and a common one. Basicly you got shafted and he has turned to be a badun. The best thing is to get to see a solicitor and see how U stand.
He has to support his kid and so must he keep supporting the kid that he aint seen for 2 years. I wouldnt hazard a guess at how you stand with the 20K that you spent. I dont want to say anything and be wrong and I guess U should ask a legal person. There are plenty on here that can help. I hope that me posting makes them jump in. Hope things turn out all right. All the best Chris.
Thanks for the support chris, he went ot his solicitors yesterday and "made me an offer" which I`ve posted in the financial forum waitng to have a quick chat with my solicitor but any help from here will be greatly appreciated.