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01 Nov 07 #5642 by suzy_sue46
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Hi everyone,

joined the site last night in an effort to check my rights. Basically we`ve been married for just over 2 years and we have a 20mth old daughter. We relocated when she was 8 wks old and I sold my house (in my sole name after a previous split) and put a 1/3 deposit down. In the last year he has helped me spend another £20k as well as running up an extra £3k on his credit card, which paid for his Playstation3 and HDTV and god knows what else.

Basically I struggled after the birth of our daughter, I didn`t want to leave my house but financially I didn`t have a choice so I was a full time mum for 15 months then got a weekend job due to childcare costs. He then got in touch with and "old female friend" and said he needed her to talk to and to meet up with on a weekend. So he spend his evenings on MSN messaging her while I sat on my own all night after being at home with a small child all day, needless to say I asked him to talk to me but he just shut down.

To cut a very long and boring short we went to counselling and it didn`t work so he asked for a divorce last week and is seeing his solicitor today. He has a 7 yr old to a previous marriage who he pays maintenance for but hasn`t seen for 2 years. I obviously need him to look after our daughter when I`m at work on the weekends.

Has anyone been through a similar scenario as I`m reluctant to bargain with him when I`ve got most to lose - financially.

Sorry about the rant but I feel a bit better now lol!


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01 Nov 07 #5654 by gone1
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I bet U feel bitter. This is a sorry story and a common one. Basicly you got shafted and he has turned to be a badun. The best thing is to get to see a solicitor and see how U stand.

He has to support his kid and so must he keep supporting the kid that he aint seen for 2 years. I wouldnt hazard a guess at how you stand with the 20K that you spent. I dont want to say anything and be wrong and I guess U should ask a legal person. There are plenty on here that can help. I hope that me posting makes them jump in. Hope things turn out all right. All the best Chris.

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Thanks for the support chris, he went ot his solicitors yesterday and "made me an offer" which I`ve posted in the financial forum waitng to have a quick chat with my solicitor but any help from here will be greatly appreciated.

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02 Nov 07 #5747 by Sera
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You're answered in your other thread. Good luck!

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