false allegations/custody/social services

Hi, my ex is trying to have my daughter removed from my care by claiming I am starving/abusing her.

He has called social services, got his dad to call them and to send round the police saying she is at risk. They have also written to her doctor with the same claims. This has been going on over a year.

The dr, police and social services were all happy with my daughter's state of health and welfare and the conditions in my home.

I just found out he's complained to social services again and they're coming out again to do a "more in depth" assessment (last time took 2 hrs and involved going through my cupboards!)

Police and social services have said there is nothing I can do to stop this, and I just have to wait until they get bored and stop making claims. My ex is relentless and vengeful and I don't think he will stop until causes me a breakdown or succeeds in having my daughter removed.

Has anyone else managed to stop their ex from doing this or have them preosecuted? It is domestic abuse and harrassment, but because there's a child involved police and social services aren't interested in what happens to the accused adult (and the knock on effect that has on the life of their child).

Whatever the outcome of this latest "visit" it will always be on my daughter's school, health and social services records that I have been accused of harming her. Is there any way to get your record cleared? Social services only put "no action taken", which doesn't put it right.

Thanks.x

Sorry dont have any advice for you, but im in the same situation as you. I too have been reported, although they didnt visit, even though I offered them to come round and see the enviroment my children live in is a happy one. Im studying to become a teaching assistant and currently applied to be a receptionist at a school, but worried too the checks would be against me.

I know its my father in law that does this and puts these false allergations into my stbx's head. They question the kids when they go over for the weekend which is really upsetting for them. I dont want to stop them from going over there as I think it important for them to see their dad, but when the inlaws get involved they come back sad and withdrawn.

I hope you get the advice you want and your able to rise above their false allergations knowing yourself that you are a great mum.

Take care

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As stressful and nasty as it is your gonna have to comply with SS and the police etc...I too was reported no action taken i have a letter here where my ex and his mother went to see my son's Dr behind my back discussing our son's dignosis his mother stated the complete opposite of what our boy is he has special needs and is far behind in school she painted a picture of a very intelligent boy who has no problems so she made herself look really silly as if he was left in her care his needs would of been so neglected.

I'm sure they have to keep a record of allegations for a certain amount of time.Tbh i have never seen my children's school records so i have never seen if the allegation is on there.

For now keep strong

So much familiar in what you say! I had to apply for a crb through a school position recently and was also worried about what would come up, but it came through clear. They shouldn't write anything on it unless you have been cautioned or charged with an offence by the police.

If they didn't even visit you shouldn't have anything to worry about. Mine didn't the first time, but did the 2nd, and the police came out immediately without warning cos the allegations were so serious.

I also didn't stop contact (and don't think I legally could) and although my daughter loves her dad it has caused problems cos of the things he says to her about me - if they are saying things about you that is upsetting your children this is child abuse and you can report them. Maybe a solicitor's letter would help - we had to do that for my father in law. Hard to know how they will react tho, they could get better or worse!

Am still waiting for my solicitor to get back to me, but if she has any ideas I will share them.x

ok, thanks. Frustrating they seem to be able to get away with this, will keep fighting!x