Dont really know how to answer you. Thing is you think in black and white, I see so many shades of grey. But one thing I wont do is hurt my kids by telling them the truth about their dad. I would like to recitify what he has said about me but I think that would just start the ball rolling.
All I can do is to try and stay consistant and remain the mum they knew.
I never assume I know best. I like to look at everybodies point of view. I would never tell someone I didnt know that their ideas where "crap" or "daft". To be honest I had enough of that from Ex as he was always right...not. I never argued back. This is a new one on me and I am nervous even typing this to a stranger on a message board. Tinny is arguing back!
might well be in a similar position to you as soon as someone buys our house.
Time will tell, my wife denies any affair with a guy from work who she was spotted out with 3 months ago, if its still going on then its on a sneaking around basis. I'm actually looking forward to finding out the truth but to be honest she doesn't appear to be in any great rush to leave our MH at the present time so perhaps any affair was short lived after i phoned her at the cinema & she came home with her tail between her legs but denied everything!
I havn't really thought about what i'll say to my children if/when this guy moves in with my wife but i'd go with what Chris & some of the other guys have said, try not to get the kids involved just let them know who there dad is & keep as much contact as possible. When they are adults tell them the truth, but by then if you are a good dad they will love you so you probably won't need to say anything.
One things for sure any new man who lives with my children will be well aware of "who's the fu**ing daddy"
Jay. Thats the spirit mate. Be a good dad. Its hard being a dad never mind a good one. I did my best.
Tinny. Of course I post for a reaction. Discusion is a reactive process. I can be a bit hard at times. But I am what I am and thats that. But I try and help those in distress which is a weakness. Know thy self and to thy self be true. Chris