The knock on effects of divorce can be great as Dita von Teese found out - no sex for a year until she had got over her past relationship. When Dita von Teese, the burlesque star, divorced rocker Marilyn Manson she found that she lost interest in sex for a year. Ironically of course her work is based a lot around being sexual in her dancing.
Dita goes on to say in an interview that she believes men are more prone to putting on the band-aid (plaster) and getting another woman. The News of the World quote her as saying:
"But I didn't feel ready to have another partner. I didn't feel the inner chemistry you need to want to have sex. It wasn't there. I needed to get the past out of my system and to listen to my emotions
"After a split a lot of men put on a band-aid by getting another woman. I wanted to deal with the break-up and learn from it and I've done that now. I wanted to come through it and be able to love again as if my heart had never been broken," she added
Wise words indeed, the learning of which lessens the long term pain and spin cycle of relationships. No more jumping out of the frying pan into the fire.
I've seen too many clients come to me not after their divorce but after the next relationship has gone belly up. The sooner you address your issues and pain the quicker, easier and more likely it will be that you will have the loving relationship you want and can keep